Common Feng Shui Bedroom Mistakes
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In feng shui, your bedroom is one of the most important parts of your home, because it represents you. We wanted to go over a few of the most common feng shui bedroom mistakes that we see, and how to fix them. Keep in mind that when we say “mistakes,” none of these situations mean that you are doomed! They are all things that you can work with. If you notice one of these “mistakes” in your own bedroom, we encourage you to approach it with curiosity rather than fear, and ask yourself what your home might be trying to communicate to you.
Here are a few things to watch out for in the bedroom:
Bed out of command
The command or commanding position is a simple concept, but a powerful one! The idea is to have your bed positioned so that you can see the main entry to the room while you are lying in bed resting. This gives you a sense of ease, because you can see what’s coming towards you.
If your bed is out of command, the best course of action is to move it. It’s often a pretty simple fix, and you might be surprised to notice some shifts in your life once you do it. If you can’t move your bed, you can place a mirror in your bedroom instead that allows you to see the reflection of the door while you’re lying in bed. Keep in mind that moving your bed is best, though, so make sure you ask yourself whether you really can’t move it or whether you are resisting a change for some other reason.
Feet pointing towards the door
Another aspect of the commanding position is that you don’t want your bed to be directly in line with the door. We often see beds with the feet pointing directly towards the room’s entrance, which is sometimes called the “coffin position.” This position allows qi (energy) to rush straight towards you through the door, which can be disruptive.
Again, if you can, it’s best to move your bed. If you’re not able to do this, hang a faceted feng shui crystal ball from the ceiling in between your bed and the door. You’ll want to hang it from a length of 9 or 18 inches, or so that the crystal is in line with the top of the door. Make sure that the door isn’t hitting the crystal when you open and close it!
Creating challenges for your partner
We often see beds with one side up against a wall. While this may save space, it makes it very challenging for one partner to get into bed. This is especially important if you’re actively looking for a partner - you want to create the space for that person to come into your life and be comfortable. Also, the two sides of your bed represent different sides of you: yin and yang, masculine and feminine. Having one side against a wall can represent an imbalance or limitation in this area.
To make things more comfortable for your partner, or your potential partner, there are a few things you can do. First, if you are able, move the bed so that both sides can be easily accessed. If you don’t have the room for this and you have a bed that is larger than you need, you may want to consider a smaller bed that will fit better in your space. (Just make sure you have at least a full size if you are an adult who would like a partner!)
It’s important to have a solid headboard that is securely fastened to the bed. This provides support for you as well as for your partner. There is a lot of flexibility in terms of the kind of headboard, but ideally it should be fastened to the bed, rather than freestanding or fastened to the wall. It’s also best to get something without bars or large perforations.
We hope this helps you set up a bedroom that supports you! If you have an unusual situation and would like more guidance, we encourage you to work one-on-one with a trained consultant. Or, if you’re really interested in this and want to learn more, we’d love to see you in our certification program!