How Feng Shui Can Support You When You’re Single
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With Valentine’s Day coming up, we wanted to dedicate a blog post to those of you who are single. Whether you’re looking for a new romantic partner or you’re intentionally taking some time alone to focus on self-care, read on to learn about some of our favorite ways to support these intentions using feng shui principles.
How to Feng Shui Your Bedroom for Love
The bedroom is the most personal area of your home. It’s also the room most connected to nurturing and healing yourself, as well as intimate relationships. This makes it an important place to pay attention to if you’re single and wanting to invite more love into your life. Here are a few questions to ask yourself when it comes to your bedroom:
How big is your bed?
If you have a twin size or single bed that is meant for only one person, you are essentially telling the universe that there is no room in your life for a partner. If possible, you’ll want to get a bed that will accommodate two people.
Is there space on each side of the bed?
If your bed is pushed up against the wall, this isn’t ideal when it comes to welcoming a partner. Even if you have a single bed and aren’t ready to upgrade to a bigger one, try pulling it out from the wall so there is at least a little bit of space on each side of the bed. This represents opportunities for qi to come into your life on both sides. Along the same lines, it’s a good idea to have two bedside tables — this is another way that you are making space for an additional person in your life.
What do you have under your bed?
Ideally, it’s best to have nothing under your bed so the qi (life force energy) can flow freely. However, if you do need to utilize this storage space, it’s okay to store soft items like off-season clothing or extra bedding. Make sure there is nothing stored under the bed that is emotionally charged, especially letters or mementos from an ex. If you’re sleeping over these things, this can hold you back and create subconscious blocks to inviting in a new relationship.
What kind of art or imagery do you have in your bedroom?
We often find that people who are single have a lot of strong, independent imagery in their homes. This can be very supportive in certain stages of life, but these aren’t the best images to have in your bedroom when you are wanting to invite in a partner. You don’t have to get rid of your artwork if you still love it, but you may want to move it to a different room in your home. Images of pairs or couples can be a good choice for a bedroom, as well as abstract art or imagery that feels softer and more receptive.
The Relationship Area of the Bagua
Another important area to pay attention to when it comes to love and partnerships is the Relationship area of the bagua, called Kun in Chinese. To find Kun, stand in your bedroom doorway facing in, and locate the far left corner. You can also click here to download our free bagua kit if you’d like more guidance in finding Kun.
While Kun does have to do with romantic relationships, there are many more layers of meaning to this gua (area of the bagua). It is also about how you show up in relationships. In the I Ching, Kun is yin earth, which is soft and receptive. These are also the qualities we want to bring into a relationship with a romantic partner.
Once you’ve located Kun, take a moment to notice what’s going on there. Is it empty? Is it messy? Is it carefully curated? If you were to look at this area with fresh eyes, how would you describe it? Try just paying attention to this area for nine minutes, and notice what you see and experience. Then, journal for nine minutes about what you noticed. When you look back on your words, pay attention to what comes up. You are your own greatest teacher, so this can be a very valuable exercise.
After you’ve done this, you may want to add something to activate this area, like a pair of rose quartz crystals. While this may seem like a simple and basic adjustment, the power of it is really in your intention. Instead of just throwing an object in a corner because you read that it was “good feng shui,” take some time to set an intention and select something with care. You will get out of it what you put into it!